Church Strife

Church Strife

At any church, at some point, there is going to be difficult and controversial situations that arise. As the spouse of the pastor, how do you lead through difficult times and keep your sanity? Keep your eye on the prize: Hebrews 12:1-2 says, “Therefore, since we are...
Coffee and God

Coffee and God

So, I’m making coffee this morning and I’m literally standing next to the machine listening to it sigh and gurgle.  We were late to school this morning so I’m feeling a little harried.  I’ve got my phone in hand catching up on text messages with my husband who is at...
Saying Yes & No Honestly: No. 2

Saying Yes & No Honestly: No. 2

In my last post, I wrote about the importance of being yourself as a clergy spouse and how, for me, this means saying “yes” and “no” with honesty and integrity. Today I want to delve into this more by looking at some of the patterns I discovered in my research on...
Saying Yes & No Honestly

Saying Yes & No Honestly

When I was processing my own role as a clergy spouse probably the best advice I heard from a former pastor’s wife was “Be yourself.” These wise words of advice stuck with me and continue to impact how I navigate my place in our community, but the lasting influence has...
An Integrated Life

An Integrated Life

Wasted hours I will never get back. That is how I’d best describe past efforts at trying to achieve a sense of balance in my life. If I listed my main priorities (in no particular order here) – marriage and family, career, physical health, spiritual life, friendships,...